Awareness

A friend brought to my attention that this is National Infertility Awareness Week. I had no idea there was such a thing. I am so glad she did though. She shared her story through her blog of their journey to their two beautiful little twins. It brought tears to my eyes as I read about her struggles, pain, and faith.  Infertility is a little talked bout problem. People don't like to share about this most intimate but painful issue. When I think about it, I can quickly call to mind several couples that are currently dealing with this. That's just with a moment of thinking. Blessedly, I have not had to struggle with this issue. Before Abigail though we had a miscarriage. Also another common but not often talked about occurence. In the short time between the miscarriage and Abigail, i hurt so badly feeling like both my body and I were failures. I couldn't take care of my child. Since then much healing has taken place as well as the births of two beautiful and healthy children. I only had to deal with what ifs for a couple months. Many people have to deal with it for years. My heart hurts as I know that friends are hurting right now wanting so badly to hold their own sweet babies.

My purpose in writing this is to ask you to be aware. There are so many people struggling. Be careful before you ask questions about when people are going to "finally start that family." They may have been trying for awhile. That question might cause more pain than you can know. Be sensitive in what you say. Most of the time you won't know what's really going on. After our miscarriage, people said, "oh you KNOW you will be good parents. You are going to have kids." No one can promise me that. God didn't make that promise to us. He promised us that He loves us and knows our hearts. He promised that he cares. Just think before you speak.

KNowing the struggles of others has helped me remember how blessed I am for my two little ladies. At times they drive me crazy, and I can't wait for bedtime. Most of the time though, they are true joy. I cannot imagine life without them. Hug your babies and say a prayer for those that are still wating for theirs.